What Do I Want?
After a fun conversation with Ms. Tee I always re-evaluate. She keeps me on my toes with her honesty, love and true concern.
So what did I learn from this conversation?
That I may not be ready for a relationship or there is great possibility that this is not the guy for me. In the past few days a couple of Tee's friends announced their engagements. My question to Tee was "How did they know that he was the one"? "They just knew", she replied. They knew what they wanted in a man and when the man came, they knew it was him. No second guessing and no mind games.
That's when I realized that if I had to keep questioning myself about the guy that I have been talking to these past months, then maybe he's not the one. Honestly there is nothing about him that makes me feel that he is so wonderful, he's just okay. In other words, better than the last.
I know in relationships you have to grow but I don't want to continue to teach men how to treat me.
I want a man who knows his role and acts on it.
I want a man that I can learn from and who can show me a part of life that I have not experienced before. I can take myself to a movie and for a walk on the beach. I know that they say it's the little things that count, but don't forget the bigger things.
I want a man who is established and experienced.
I need a man who is willing and able to be a father figure to my daughter.
I want a man that, when I look into his eyes or while I watch him while he sleeps, I adore him and be happy that I with him. Not shaking my head and wondering why in the hell I'm with him. And last but not least, I need a man that can and will satisfy my sexual desires.
So I will patiently wait for him and in the mean time continue to work on me. So when he comes I will be ready, no questions about it.
4 Comments:
Preach!!!
You said it so right, now only if the men would listen.
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good luck with that.
what do you do for your man?
perhaps you sit back and want for things? if you want change, be the change.
if you have define roles that you expect, let them be known and then play your position. if you want to be shown new things, what are they? what new things do you have to show? if you want a better man; if you need a better man, then you had better have something to offer besides demands of a big dick and a free trip to "lay back land". the man you desire probably wants the same from you. you would never know it because you would rather receive than give.
i repeat,
good luck with that.
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I love it, Can I get this on a shirt, Or maybe a pocket card so I can carry it around and remind myself of what I really want in a man.
You have the right approach in working on yourself while you wait - it's good that you recognize the even exchange aspect: we all should, men & women.
True...it is never worth it to settle for "just okay" just because you don't want to be alone...the heartache that can possibly come from Mr. Aaight later you can definitely do without - if you're not feeling it...it probably aint there. Stay up.
Thanx for the love btw.
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